Confidence is 50% of your job.
People don't like feeling controlled. That's true.
But humans are DYING to follow confident leaders.
You go to a nice restaurant. You ask what they recommend. They say "whatever you pick is fine". You find an excuse to leave.
If they give too many choices, you freak out. You don't buy. You go somewhere where the person says "We have red sweaters and blue sweaters. But for your complexion and budget, I'd definitely go with the blue." Oh thank god. Exhale.
"Do you want this Michelin-star steak cooked rare? Or medium? Or medium rare? Or well done? Do you want it on a plate or in a bowl or on a wooden plank? Do you want hot sauce? Sriracha? Or Frank's RedHot?"
You are getting nervous. I feel your jittery heart.
Humans need structure, algorithms, guidance, rules and patterns.
The more complex and absurd our world becomes (presidential election, anyone?) the more people are dying to follow people who seem like they have figured things out.
We are all scared, confused, unsure. So certainty is wildly appealing.
Marie Forleo says that "everything is figureoutable." I love that.
But the only thing is: NOT everything is figureoutable.
What are we doing on this blue grape hurling through space?
I dunno exactly.
That’s part of the pain of being a human. We are so uncertain.
This is why confident leaders rise. We are dying to be lead so that we can feel safe and secure.
Inc.com says "You would assume data and reasoning always win the day, right? Nope. Research shows humans prefer cockiness to expertise. We naturally assume confidence equates with skill."
So part of your job is to be confident. Give your client, your boss, your co-workers your confidence.
Give people what they are hungry for. They will stay.
Not blind confidence. (For godsakes, be good.) The confidence that good is good enough. And that we can leap. We can try. We can hope. We can dare.
The audacity to think that we will be okay.
Be a confident leader in your industry. Choose to be confident and rise to your own expectations of yourself.
It is NOT arrogant to know that you're good and to say that you're good.
It is reassuring.